Did you happen to catch Kelly Bliss, (of Solve your "weight problem" for good! Get Fit, Eat Healthy with Kelly Bliss! and the Plus Size Yellow Pages!) and Joy Nash debate with some thinner woman. I did not get her name. It was on this Tuesday, June 19th 9:AM EST on Fox TV.
If you missed it, the show said you could find out more at mandjshow.com, but it won’t load on my PC at the moment. OK for the last ½ hour, so I really don’t know.
Granted, I tend to live in my own little world, usually made up of trying to keep up with my 7 year old daughter. I had never heard of Joy Nash before.
I read her term paper on Fat and Oppression .
It’s a worthy read for all us larger folks. It points out the mechanics oppression and how they relate to this anti large folks society we live in today. It points out a lot of things we all should be aware of.
One thing in particular got my attention. When Kelly Bliss first mentioned to me the prejudice against plus sized people in our culture, I was stunned. I thought only us smokers were legally discriminated against….
She suggested the two books I now promote in this blog’s right column:
Children and Teens Afraid to Eat and Women Afraid to Eat…
These 2 books are good and informative reads! They gave me info to work with, such as my daughter no longer fusses about our weight. In part because I promote exercise, well skating, you know, fun stuff, (!) perhaps, but I always did. They books gave this perspective to share with her “honey if those things on TV worked, there’d be no chubby people any more right?”
I ordered them from Amazon. While I was waiting for them to come in:
I remembered all those little niggling things various folks had said to, or around me. And the way the women in a friend of ours, whom we visit with most holidays, seemed stunned when I fail to take an interest in their latest diet….Yeah I get it that they assume I’m dieting myself….and I never got why it was assumed:
A) I’d care
B) I’d be dieting too
OK. I’m plump. Maybe it’s because I’ve never been a beauty, I did not notice the loss.
Maybe it’s stomach problems I had in my mid teens and again in my mid 20s which lead me to be under 100 lbs as an adult. Because I could not digest food…..
For all I know it could be reading about the 900 day siege of Leningrad….
Regards, in a way to starvation and siege: A man who, for some time now, apparently will not give up on me, emails me various things: One of which was “ keep eating and smoking and your daughter won’t have a mom much longer… words to that effect. Look I can see loosing the smoking, but he’d advised me to quit eating! Why would one treat themselves like an enemy? And is social pressure to be thin so rampant that women, and now young men, do just that? Much suggests it is. PRETTY SCARY STUFF, SOCIAL PRESSURE.
I just don’t get diets not prescribed by you doctor for a real specific reason. Like the excruciating pain comes from those stones in your gall bladder. Don’t eat any fatty foods till after we remove you rocky, muddy gall bladder, and you can skip the pain.
But I could not help but notice, that if you are a woman, if you are plump, it’s assumed you are dieting. If you, as I have been, are thin, you will be questioned as to how you get or maintain that…
But I have to get it now, because as early as my daughter’s 5th year she started being concerned about her weight and mine! And I don’t even diet! Or fuss about my weight!?!
Even after I read those 2 books, one thing I did not get.
Joy Nash addresses this in her term paper:
How long has this anti fat attitude been prevalent?
Her paper is a really good read!
I seem to recall when my esteemed elders where much bigger folks. AND THEY WERE MY ESTEEMED, LEARNED AND MUCH LOVED ELDERS! Hey I’m 47 now. Neither old nor young. Anyone else remember that?